Kim Ashbaugh, Author at Sweet Cottage Life https://sweetcottagelife.com/author/kimmarie/ Creating a warm and welcoming home. Tue, 14 Apr 2026 12:30:55 +0000 en hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.3 235820523 Steps for Reducing Homeschool Stress https://sweetcottagelife.com/reduce-homeschool-stress/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/reduce-homeschool-stress/#respond Tue, 14 Apr 2026 12:28:15 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=716 Tired of experiencing stress in your homeschool? Try these steps to reduce homeschool stress, and have a more calm, peaceful environment today!

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Homeschooling can be very relaxing or highly stressful– all in the same day! Whether you make it overly-complicated or have too little structure, causing stress in your homeschool day is probably not your goal. I was quite stressed as a new homeschooler. Let me explain, then help you with some ideas to reduce stress in your homeschool.

My Story

It was our second year homeschooling, and I was still using a classroom set-up (a nod to my previous life as an elementary school teacher). I was trying to get the girls finished with the core part of their day, but my five-year-old kept getting up and down from the little table she and her seven-year old sister shared. Finally, as she popped out of her chair AGAIN to go and get a drink of water, I almost shouted at her: “WHY do you think you can just get up and leave the room whenever you want to?!” She stopped, stared at me, then burst into tears as she replied, “Because it’s HOME!!!”

My heart broke as I realized how hurt she must feel as I, her mother, the one she should be able to run to to receive love, kindness, and gentleness, was the one completely annoyed at her just for doing something that comes naturally. It was I who needed an attitude change.

Though I didn’t at once become the perfect homeschool mom (actually, that NEVER happened), that day, I resolved to tone down my overly-strict, classroom-focused expectations and trust the process. We would finish the day, the week, the month, the homeschool year, successfully–but it didn’t mean every month, week, or even day would look the same. 

Homeschool Looks Different

Homeschool is NOT like school. Oh, there are some similarities… we study the required subjects, our days revolve around school, we take breaks. But studying at home should be more casual, comfortable, and loosely structured. You don’t need a perfectly-timed schedule at home because you don’t have a class of twenty students to manage. You don’t have the same interruptions or responsibilities as a classroom teacher. The students are YOUR children, and you already know them. The following steps may help you relax and be a calmer, more pleasant mother and leader of the little kingdom that is your homeschool:

Simple Steps to Reduce Homeschool Stress

  1. Create a loose structure– one that is more routine-focused than timed-schedule focused. As much as you can, do things in the same order each day, but don’t get stressed about the exact times. 
  2. Clean up breakfast and straighten the house before you start the school day. Involve your children in these chores… even toddlers can help with simple chores. Starting the day with a more organized space creates a more peaceful environment.
  3. Embrace distractions as a part of your day. Leave wiggle room in your schedule so you have time to make up activities or subjects that were skipped due to interruptions. 
  4. If something isn’t going right or working smoothly, find out why and work to help that child. In my case, my five-year-old needed shorter focused times and more breaks.
  5. Go to a mom’s group, or invite another homeschooling friend and her kids to the park with you and yours. You can chat while the children play. Everyone can benefit from the perspective of someone else going through the same thing. It’s nice to know you’re not alone!
  6. What is your reason for homeschooling? Whatever it is, write your “why” down and put it where you can see it every day. Refrigerator, bulletin board, post-it note. Reminding yourself why you’re doing something can help you stick with it for the long haul.

Homeschool is different from regular school in many ways. That’s a good thing! A calm, loosely-structured routine will benefit you AND your children. You’ve got this, one step at a time.

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Easy Homemade Peppermint Cream Cheese Frosting https://sweetcottagelife.com/easy-homemade-peppermint-cream-cheese-frosting/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/easy-homemade-peppermint-cream-cheese-frosting/#respond Tue, 09 Dec 2025 14:00:00 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=241 I love to find ways to adapt basic dessert recipes for each season. Using flavors associated with those seasons is an easy way to do that. You can use lemon for summer, cinnamon for fall, etc. Peppermint is often linked to Christmas, though I also love it in summer for its cooling effect. (Even if […]

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Three brownies frosted with peppermint cream frosting sit on a plate.

I love to find ways to adapt basic dessert recipes for each season. Using flavors associated with those seasons is an easy way to do that. You can use lemon for summer, cinnamon for fall, etc. Peppermint is often linked to Christmas, though I also love it in summer for its cooling effect. (Even if this is psychological, it works for me!) Recently, I baked my Quick and Easy Homemade Brownies for a holiday party and added this festive topping. Both recipes are simple to make! This easy homemade peppermint cream cheese frosting is my new Christmastime favorite and makes brownies, cookies, or cupcakes extra special.

How to make Easy Homemade Peppermint Cream Cheese Frosting

Start with a full block (8 ounces) of cream cheese and a stick of butter. (Some people swear by unsalted butter for baking, but I use salted for everything. Which do you prefer?). To soften them, just leave them out at room temperature in a mixing bowl (together is fine). Depending on the temperature of your house, this may take awhile. My trick is to put the bowl of cream cheese and butter into my microwave, shut the door, and turn on the stove light below. This heats up the inside of the microwave just enough to soften everything nicely. You can also use the microwave (low setting) to soften these items.

When the butter and cream cheese are softened enough, add the peppermint and vanilla extracts. Gradually beat in the powdered sugar til smooth.

Next, spread the frosting over the top of your baked item. I love this over brownies– it takes them to a whole new, holiday level of sweetness!!!

Peppermint cream cheese frosting is spread over a batch of brownies.

Crush the candy canes inside a gallon-sized zip closure bag. I like to use a rolling pin to do this. Or use a meat mallet like this. You CAN use a food processor, but the noise is terrible and it doesn’t go any faster.

Sprinkle the crushed candy canes over the frosting.

Peppermint cream cheese frosting with crushed peppermint candies tops a batch of brownies.

There you have it! A sweet treat that will be the hit of the next holiday party!

Peppermint Cream Cheese Frosting

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Course: dessertCuisine: cakes, icings, cookies, brownies, cupcakesDifficulty: easy

This cool, creamy, minty frosting takes cookies, cupcakes, and even brownies to the next level!

Ingredients

  • One 8-ounce block of cream cheese, softened

  • 1 stick butter, softened

  • 1 teaspoon peppermint extract, or several drops food-grade peppermint essential oil

  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract

  • 3 cups powdered sugar

  • 2 candy canes, crushed

Directions

  • Beat together cream cheese, butter, and extracts.
  • Gradually stir or beat in powdered sugar (use low setting on beaters).
  • Using an offset spatula, spread frosting on surface.
  • Crush candy canes by placing them in a gallon-sized zip closure bag and using a rolling pin or meat mallet to crush.
  • Lightly sprinkle crushed candy canes over frosting.

Notes

  • 1. It is important that your butter and cream cheese are softened. You can do this on a low setting in a microwave, but it works better to let them sit out for an hour or so at room temperature.
    2. If you don’t have an offset spatula, dip the rubber spatula in to the water before loading the frosting onto it.
    3. Add more peppermint extract for a more minty taste. Be careful not to add too much, however, or your frosting will taste like toothpaste!
    4. I like a light sprinkle of crushed candy canes, so I recommended two. Add more if you like.

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Grandma T’s Sweet Potato Casserole https://sweetcottagelife.com/grandma-ts-sweet-potato-casserole/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/grandma-ts-sweet-potato-casserole/#respond Wed, 26 Nov 2025 18:48:41 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=649 How I got the recipe for Sweet Potato Casserole I wish you could have known my husband’s grandmother, otherwise known as “Grandma T.” Even though I didn’t meet her until I was 20, Grandma T became to me as close as if she were my own grandmother. She was soft-spoken and warm, welcoming all into […]

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Sweet potato casserole is being served! There is a piece missing from this one.

How I got the recipe for Sweet Potato Casserole

I wish you could have known my husband’s grandmother, otherwise known as “Grandma T.” Even though I didn’t meet her until I was 20, Grandma T became to me as close as if she were my own grandmother. She was soft-spoken and warm, welcoming all into her home with a smile and a plate full of good, simple, Southern food.

When I married my husband, I gained access to all of Grandma’s recipes, and this is one of my favorites. Rather then the usual marshmallow-topped sweet potato casserole I grew up with, this recipe combines the sweetness of brown sugar with the slight bitterness of walnuts. It checks all the boxes of flavor, color, and texture that you want and expect during the holidays.

How to serve Sweet Potato Casserole

Sweet potato casserole pairs well with a good ham, but can also be served alongside a roast turkey or even roast beef! Everyone will love you for making it, and will request the recipe over and over again (which is why you can just copy and paste this link right now).

How to make Sweet Potato Casserole

Start, of course, with sweet potatoes. Technically, you CAN just open a can of yams, dump out the juice, and measure away. I may have done that a couple of times… But I recommend cooking fresh sweet potatoes from scratch. If you do this earlier in the day, or even the day before, it’s pretty simple and straightforward. You need about 3-4 medium sweet potatoes to make 3 cups. The sizes are all over the place, so I always make a little more than I need. You can always save the leftovers for sweet potato biscuits!

Sweet potatoes are piled into a basket.

Put your unpeeled sweet potatoes into a pot filled with water. The water should come to about a half inch above the sweet potatoes. Bring the pot to a boil and reduce heat so the water is still bubbling, but not so intensely. Cook until the sweet potatoes are tender. I test them by poking them with a fork. I never time this, I just go about other tasks in the kitchen, but it takes probably about 20-30 minutes. Cool, and peel the skin off (it will come off easily).

Preheat the oven to 350°. Using beaters or a food processor, whip those sweet potatoes into creamy goodness. Add the rest of the ingredients except the topping ingredients. Pour into a 13 x 9 casserole dish that you have greased with butter. You could spray the dish with cooking spray, but to me, that alters the flavor of my dish and not in a good way!

The sweet potato casserole mixture has just been put into a casserole dish.

Combine all the ingredients for the topping, and crumble this over the sweet potato mixture. Now you are ready to bake the sweet potato casserole!

Put the pan into your 350° oven and set the timer for 30 min. You may need slightly more or less time, depending on your oven. When the casserole looks done, let it cool slightly before eating. It should be eaten warm but not hot.

Enjoy this as a side dish or even a dessert for your next holiday (or any day!) gathering. Speaking of desserts… here’s another super easy one if you desire chocolate with your holiday meal. Just in case. 😉

My Favorite Sweet Potato Casserole

Recipe by Kim Ashbaugh
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Course: Uncategorized
Servings

12

servings
Cooking time

30

minutes

Ingredients

  • 3 cups cooked sweet potatoes

  • 1 cup granulated sugar

  • 1/2 t salt

  • 2 large eggs

  • 1/2 stick melted butter

  • 1/2 cup milk

  • 1 t vanilla extract

  • Topping:
  • 1/3 stick softened butter

  • 1 cup packed brown sugar

  • 1/2 to 1 cup chopped walnuts– depending on preference

  • 1/3 cup flour (all-purpose or gluten-free)

Directions

  • Cream together sweet potatoes, sugar, and salt until combined.
  • Beat in eggs.
  • Carefully stir in melted butter, milk, and vanilla extract.
  • Grease a 13 x 9 inch pan using softened butter.
  • Pour sweet potato mixture into pan.
  • Combine topping ingredients.
  • With clean hands, crumble topping ingredients onto sweet potato mixture.
  • Bake at 350° for appoximately 30 min. Cool to warm before serving.

Notes

  • Cook 3 or more sweet potatoes the day before the make this recipe go faster the day of. You do not need to peel the sweet potatoes before cooking. You can also use canned yams, but freshly -cooked sweet potatoes taste so much better!
  • I use whole milk in all my baking recipes. You need that fat content. Low-fat or skim milk will not produce the same results.
  • Use dark brown sugar in the topping for a more molass-y taste; use light brown for subtlty of flavor. I prefer dark.
  • Using the maximum amount of walnuts will balance out the sweetness of this recipe. You can substitute pecans if you like! I think Grandma’s recipe actually called for pecans, but I changed it based on my preference. Pecans would produce a slightly sweeter result. You can leave the nuts completely off if needed. In that case, I’d cut the sugar by 1/4.
  • I substitute with gluten-free flour with no problem.

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The Best Chocolate Chip Banana Muffins https://sweetcottagelife.com/the-best-chocolate-chip-banana-muffins/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/the-best-chocolate-chip-banana-muffins/#respond Fri, 07 Nov 2025 12:20:45 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=591 Soft and chewy, these melt-in-your-mouth muffins are full of chocolatey goodness!

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The secret is out– the recipe for the best chocolate chip banana muffins is here right in front of you!

A little one takes a bite from a delicious chocolate chip banana muffin.

Everyone loves these chocolate chip banana muffins! They are rich, chocolatey, soft, and delicious.

I got the recipe for these muffins as a newly married school teacher. A group of my teacher friends were having a Tuppeware party. (For those under 40: Direct sales used to happen via home parties before social media was a thing. I’m all about any excuse for a party– it was fun!)

The party hostess served these homemade chocolate chip banana muffins, and I was immediately hooked on them! I got the recipe from her and began making them whenever I got the chance. People would request the recipe from me, and I would actually write it out for them. My sister-in-law started making these as often as I did, and now it has become a family recipe! I have tweaked the original slightly and feel this is the best version of chocolate chip banana muffins there is!

Secret Ingredient

One of the secrets of these muffins is coffee. Naturally, they are tasty when eaten while you are drinking coffee (or milk!), but I am referring to the coffee in the recipe. The coffee flavor doesn’t exactly come out in the muffins, but it enhances the flavors of banana and chocolate already there. It works like vanilla extract does (I have added that, too– it wasn’t in the original recipe. I pretty much add vanilla to everything sweet!)

How to make Chocolate Chip Banana Muffins.

First, combine all your dry ingredients– flour, baking powder, baking soda, and salt. I use the best all-purpose flour I can afford (usually King Arthur). When I was younger, the best I could afford was store-brand, so don’t let that stop you! Your muffins will still taste good.

In another large bowl, beat together the softened butter, sugar, vanilla extract, and egg.

In a separate bowl, mash the bananas.

Dissolve the instant coffee powder in one tablespoon very hot water. Add to bananas.

Add the banana mixture to the butter mixture.

Now gently pour in the dry ingredients and mix it all together until just combined.

Lastly, gently stir in the chocolate chips. (I always pop a few into my mouth for good measure!)

Scoop muffin batter into a muffin tin lined with paper liners.

A muffin pan is filled with batter, waiting to be baked.

Bake at 400° for 18-20 minutes.

These chocolate chip banana muffins taste good warm (but not hot!), cooled, or even refrigerated! My favorite way to eat one is with a glass of cold milk. Enjoy!

The Best Chocolate Chip Banana Muffins

Recipe by Kim Ashbaugh
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Course: Uncategorized
Servings

18

servings
Prep time

20

minutes
Cooking time

20

minutes
Calories

270

kcal

A hint of coffee enhances flavors of chocolate and banana, resulting in buttery, melt-in-your-mouth goodness in these delicious muffins.

Ingredients

  • 2 sticks butter, softened

  • 1 1/4 cups granulated sugar

  • 2 tsp vanilla extract

  • 1 large or extra large egg

  • 1 Tbsp instant coffee or espresso powder

  • 2-3 large, very ripe bananas, mashed

  • 2 cups all-purpose flour

  • 1 tsp baking powder

  • 1/2 tsp baking soda

  • 1/2 tsp salt

  • 1/2 bag or 1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips

Directions

  • Preheat oven to 400°.
  • In a medium bowl, combine flour, baking powder, baking soda, and salt. Set aside.
  • In large bowl, beat together softened butter, sugar, and egg.
  • In a coffee cup, dissolve the instant coffee or espresso powder in 1 Tbsp very hot water.
  • In a small to medium bowl, mash bananas and add dissolved coffee. Add this mixture to the butter/sugar/egg mixture.
  • Add dry ingredients and stir just til combined
  • Gently fold in chocolate chips.
  • Spoon batter into muffin cups lined with paper liners
  • Bake for 20 min, or until a toothpick inserted in center of muffin comes out clean.
  • Let muffins cool slightly before removing from pan.

Notes

  • Many baking recipes call for unsalted butter, but I always use salted and it turns out fine.
  • Any kind of granulated sugar will do, but I use raw. You can substitute brown sugar in a pinch, but this will alter the flavor.
  • To enhance banana flavor, you can add 1 tsp of banana extract.
  • The original recipe said to combine the 1 Tbsp instant coffee/espresso powder with 1 Tbsp hot water. I usually do this, but at times, when I use really finely-ground espresso powder, I just stir the powder right into the batter.
  • I read that using extra-large eggs, rather than large, makes your baked goods turn out better. I tried it and agree!
  • I substitute gluten-free flour when needed. My favorite is Bob’s Red Mill.

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How to Stay Close to Young Grandchildren Who Live Far Away https://sweetcottagelife.com/how-to-stay-close-to-young-grandchildren-who-live-far-away/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/how-to-stay-close-to-young-grandchildren-who-live-far-away/#respond Fri, 03 Oct 2025 13:03:00 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=549 Living far away from grandchildren can be hard. Learn how you can maintain a connection with your grandchildren even when separated by a long distance. Sara's tips are creative and easy to do!

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I am so excited to bring you this post by my friend Sara. Sara and I met in college, and have been besties ever since. Distance has kept us apart physically most of our adult lives, but we have managed to squeeze in visits back and forth– enough so that our five daughters consider one another friends, too. Sara lives far from her two sets of grandchildren, but that doesn’t stop her from intentionally investing in their lives. Read on to see how you can cultivate a relationship with and stay close to young grandchildren who live far away. (This would work for nieces and nephews, too!) — Kim

How to Stay Close to Young Grandchildren Who Live Far Away

When my sister and I were little girls, we planned to live next door to each other as grownups and let our kids have parties and play together every day. Of course, reality is usually far different from our imaginings.

A mother, her twin daughters, and grandsone pose while another grandson pops into the background unexpectedly.

It is the same with my grandchildren. When I imagined my life as a grandma, I saw the grands living down the street, running to Grandma’s house and bursting in for fun, cookies, or maybe a sleepover–happy days and years of memories piling up one upon another. Reality again is very different. I have two daughters who have built wonderful and full lives with their husbands and families—but they are living far away from Nan and Gramps. One daughter with two boys lives four hours away, and the other daughter with her three little ones lives on the other side of the country!

Are there ways that a grandmother can build a loving connection to her grandchildren when she doesn’t see them very often?

Building connections with grandchildren who live far away

Before I share my connection ideas, I’ll share some determinations I have personally made as a far-away grandparent.

My do’s and don’ts as a far-away grandparent:

  • I will not pester my grown children to live close to me. I want to give them the freedom to live their own lives, just as my husband and I had. This may be difficult, but it is a good gift you can give to your children.
  • I determined to be respectful of the wishes of the parents in all ways of connecting with the grandchildren. If I need to ask permission first, then I ask. 
  • I’m not perfect at this, but I try to prayerfully manage my expectations so that I am not spending my time feeling frustration or other negative emotions.
  • I determined that I would look for ways to creatively pass on my faith to the grandchildren. I want them to know how important God is to me.
  • I believe that the biggest thing I can do to invest in my grandchildren is to commit to praying faithfully for them every day.
A grandmother and granddaughter share a cuddle.

Connecting with grandchildren who live far away

Here are some things I do to stay connected with my sweet little ones as best as I can:

  • Video chats are a great way of staying connected. I’ve played puppets with the little ones, or sang songs, or showed them the cat or other things they would find interesting. Some children enjoy video chat more than others. Another grandma I know, with the parent’s agreement, set up a weekly time when she would call to talk. Don’t be sad if the child doesn’t want to talk or be on camera. That’s a very normal feeling for a child. Just be positive, and say, “That’s ok, you don’t have to talk.”
Video chats are a great way to connect with grandchildren who live far away.
  • Sometimes just leaving a video message or voice message for the child is a good way to connect. This gives the parent the ability to play the message when it fits with their schedule. You don’t get any feedback, but the child has a connection with you through the message.
  • One of the best things I’ve done that has worked well is making a private social media page where I can read picture books to the children. My daughters cast it onto the tv, and the kids sit and watch me or Gramps read them stories.
  • Sometimes I write letters to the grandkids. Pinterest has so many ideas for handmade cards any child would love. The kids enjoy getting any kind of mail. Now apparently my little 3 year old granddaughter thinks all packages are from Nan. I may have sent one too many surprises in the mail!
  • Think of little traditions that you always do when you are together or far apart. They will come to expect and look for these. My grandchildren love to watch a movie and eat a tootsie pop on Nan’s bed. No visit would be complete without this tradition. To build on that connection, when we are apart I always include a tootsie pop if I send them a box. We also send each grandchild a fun Christmas card early in December. Some other ideas may be: dressing up in whatever their birthday party theme is and making a video singing Happy Birthday, or sending a photo text or an actual photo of things you see in nature that they might enjoy. I imagine them as grown-ups one day remembering those traditions.
Children snuggled up with treats watch a movie together.
  • When we take a family vacation together, I gather photos from everyone and create a simple photo album of the pictures to send to all the families. The children enjoy looking back and remembering the fun we had. Online photo books are wonderful too, and there is often a coupon or discount. The grandkids still get them out and remember. They miss you more than you realize.
  • In writing letters to the younger grandchildren, I find that I quickly run out of interesting things to say! So instead, I sometimes write a made-up picture book type story, very simple with hand drawn pictures, to send to the grandkids. They seem to enjoy receiving those.
Illustration of a story handwritten by a grandma
  • Some years I subscribe to magazines for each of the grandkids. The ones I’ve sent are Ranger Rick Zoo Books, Baby Bug, and Cricket. My favorite one to recommend, and that I will continue to send throughout the school years is God’s World Magazine. They have magazines appropriate for each age group, and the stories are interesting to children.

It is not easy to live far apart from family, and especially when that includes our perfect and adorable grandchildren! If you have grandchildren far away, I’m sure you’re already planning your next trip to visit them, but until then, with some thought and dedication, you can connect with your far away darlings and make memories in many ways. I hope that if anyone else has fun ideas, that you share them
with us in the comments. — Sara

A family poses on the steps of their vacation cottage

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Every Home a Foundation by Phylicia Masonheimer: Book Review https://sweetcottagelife.com/every-home-a-foundation-by-phylicia-masonheimer-book-review/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/every-home-a-foundation-by-phylicia-masonheimer-book-review/#respond Fri, 01 Aug 2025 13:00:00 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=271 The book Every Home a Foundation by Phylicia Masonheimer was on my eldest daughter’s Christmas list, and I was intrigued. I had heard of Phylicia, and had listened to her podcast. I enjoyed her teaching on the Bible, and wanted to see how she incorporated that into a book about the home. Every Home a […]

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The book Every Home a Foundation by Phylicia Masonheimer was on my eldest daughter’s Christmas list, and I was intrigued. I had heard of Phylicia, and had listened to her podcast. I enjoyed her teaching on the Bible, and wanted to see how she incorporated that into a book about the home.

Every Home a Foundation by Phylicia Masonheimer: Book Review

But this book is not really about incorporating the Bible into your home. Rather, Masonheimer suggests that tending the home is a part of a Christian’s regular worship. Cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, gardening, and making repairs are acts of worship if done with a heart directed towards Christ.

A Bible sits open on top of the book "Every Home a Foundation" by Phylicia Masonheimer.

I’ve heard this idea before, but Masonheimer goes deeper, including many Scripture references as well as practical ideas for each area of homemaking. She also zeroes in on the fact that everyone who has a home is a homemaker- not just the married, the homeowners, or the stay-at-home parents. She includes singles and those who rent and/or live with roommates. In short, if you are a believer and have a home, this book is for you. It is full of practical ideas for you, the home keeper, to bless both those you live with and those whom you invite into your home.

Theology and Liturgy of Home

This book is divided in to two parts. A Theology of Home explores topics like being content with your home, creating a culture of faith within your home, and keeping a “rhythm” in your home, all done with the intent of bringing glory to God. A Liturgy of Home describes homemaking as a spiritual discipline, with practical ideas given for keeping up with home tasks so as not to become overwhelmed. Phylicia’s ideas for cooking, cleaning, laundry, tending, and decorating routines inspired me! I found myself making mental notes of things I wanted to tweak around my house and getting excited about implementing some of these ideas.

a cup of tea sits near a basket of bread and the book "Every Home a Foundation" by Phylicia Masonheimer

If the purpose of a home is to bring glory to God, it naturally follows that discipleship and community will exist within that home, and those are indeed common threads throughout this book. Phylicia gives guidance on how to host when you have a busy life or young children. She encourages the sharing of one’s home, giving ideas for gatherings and meals. The idea of setting boundaries to prevent burnout is also a strong point in her writing.

After reading this book, I was more inspired than ever to use my home for hospitality to those in my community. Phylicia Masonheimer presents both the theology and liturgy of home in practical terms, making Every Home a Foundation my current favorite book in its genre. If you are a believer who could use some encouragement or motivation in the area of home, you will enjoy this book.

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Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Started Homeschooling https://sweetcottagelife.com/things-i-wish-id-known-before-i-started-homeschooling/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/things-i-wish-id-known-before-i-started-homeschooling/#respond Fri, 25 Jul 2025 13:40:29 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=269 Many people consider homeschooling, but let fear or uncertainty about their own ability to educate their children stop them. I’m here to encourage you that you CAN successfully homeschool your children (if you want to). I educated all my children at home, starting when the eldest was in first grade. I did some things right […]

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Many people consider homeschooling, but let fear or uncertainty about their own ability to educate their children stop them. I’m here to encourage you that you CAN successfully homeschool your children (if you want to). I educated all my children at home, starting when the eldest was in first grade. I did some things right and made many mistakes, and I can tell you with confidence I would 100 percent do it all over again.

1. You don’t have to have it all together to start.

“…the hardest part of any job is getting started.” — Mary Kay Ash

You do not need a degree in education, an expensive curriculum, or even a co-op membership to start homeschooling. What you do need is some focused time to prepare and a heart willing to give up a good part of each day. It sounds overwhelming, as any new task does. But it also gets easier, as things do when you repeat them over and over.

I recommend you research the homeschooling laws in your state, and follow them. Then just start homeschooling!

2. Each child has a different learning style and different needs.

When I started homeschooling, I thought the rigid, traditional curriculum I was using was good for each and every child. What I didn’t realize was that every child has a different learning style and needs. One of mine was definitely more “out of the box.” She needed more focused time outside of textbooks, interacting with the world and listening to stories or “living books.” Reading with Mama and playing outside, exploring the wonders of nature. I knew nothing of this type of learning, called the Charlotte Mason method, until much later. When I learned of it, I implemented as many principles as possible. (My children were then in high school and middle school.) But oh, how I wish I had started with that method when my children were small! My middle child especially would have enjoyed school so much more. Take some time to evaluate each child’s needs. This happens over time as you practice learning together.

3. Homeschooling is not regular school at home.

This is a common misconception. In a crisis situation, doing regular school lessons at home may be necessary, but this is not what I mean when I say the word “homeschooling.” The good news is that this frees the homeschool parent! You don’t have to create a classroom environment in your home. (I did this at first!) You are educating your children in a way that works for and is comfortable for your family. (More on that later.)

4. You don’t have to stick to a rigid schedule.

Again, freedom. You are not bound to a minute-by-minute schedule, simply because you don’t need to be. You are not sharing restrooms, playground, and lunchroom with 12 other classes. Flexibility reigns in homeschooling! Up late one night? Start later in the morning. Dentist appointments? Bring the books into the waiting room. Have teenagers who like to sleep in or a Dad who works during the day but wants to help with homeschooling? Try night classes!

5. It’s ok if some days you don’t accomplish all your goals.

As a recovering perfectionist, I know these days can be hard. You feel like you’re falling behind, or worse- failing. You’re not.

Some days, your children work hard and have great attitudes. All the assignments get finished and they do their chores without being asked. The house (somehow) stays clean and you still have energy at 4:00.

I think I had maybe one of those days every other year at the most in my seventeen years homeschooling.

The homeschool life is a marathon, not a sprint.

(If you need ideas on how to entertain younger children while working more in-depth with older ones, check out this post.)

6. School and real life can flow together.

Here is an example of what I mean by school and real life flowing together:

You go through your morning routine and get the children started on some independent work. Now you go and throw a load of laundry into the washing machine. When you get back, you listen to one child read or recite while you nurse the baby. The baby goes down for a nap, and you put that load of laundry in the dryer. You return to do math lessons with the younger children. Everyone takes a break for outside play, snack, or chores. Back to school work and you’re reading a history lesson together. School and the rest of the day are intertwined, reducing stress and making it easier to accomplish the things that need to be done.

7. Support from other homeschooling moms is vital.

When I first started homeschooling, I thought I was going it pretty much alone. Then I went to my first homeschool moms meeting. The hostess had all of us bring a snack, and we sat around munching and talking for hours! I realized I needed a sounding board (and to be one myself) for all that a homeschool mom experiences. How refreshing to hear, “Oh! You had that kind of day, too?!” or “Ah, so we are not the only ones who struggle with ______.” Everyone needs a community of like-minded humans. This is vital to a homeschooler!

8. What other people think doesn’t matter.

I worried that others would think I was weird or that I was trying to shelter my children too much.

Guess what I learned to say?

So what.

My real friends may have some questions for me, especially if they did not fully understand what it means to homeschool. But they would never judge or condemn me for it. Anyone who did wasn’t a true friend.

I decided to do what was right for my family, and ignore the doubters.

I’m so glad I did.

9. Delegating will save your sanity.

You simply can not do it all– homeschooling, cleaning the house, laundry, grocery shopping, etc– then feel badly when it doesn’t all get finished.

You must delegate to someone, starting with your own family.

This is what worked for us. It will probably look differently for your family, but I wanted to show you an example:

  • My husband taught some classes after work (subjects he enjoyed– for him it was art and Bible classes). This took some of the pressure from me and gave him more time with the kids. It also helped him feel more connected to and involved in the homeschooling process.
  • I involved my children in housework by giving them chores. The earlier this starts, the better! The purpose of chores is much more than simply having some help around the house. Studies by multiple researchers have shown that involving children in the work of the household contributes positively to their growth and development. It’s a win/win for everyone.
  • These days, you can do grocery pickups (what a lifesaver!). Sometimes, I order groceries and have my husband stop by and pick them up on his way home. When I was homeschooling, this was not yet an option in our area, but would have been an additional time-saver!
  • If you can afford it, get some cleaning and organizing help from a local high school student. Just a couple hours a month could help you feel more on top of things, and help a young person who is trying to earn some money.

10. Homeschooling can change your family’s life for the better.

I didn’t know when I started homeschooling how it would change our life. We went from being rushed every morning and dropping kids off in different places to being together in a way that unified our family. We worked together, played together, learned together. My girls developed close relationships with both parents and each other because of our decision to homeschool. Homeschooling was a huge sacrifice– of time, finances, and my own other interests.

It was so worth it, and I would do it again.

— Kim

What about you? Were you homeschooled, or do you plan to homeschool? Please leave your thoughts in the comments below– I’d love to hear them!

For more on getting started homeschooling, check out my friend Tricia’s book, Help! I’m Homeschooling and her website. Both are valuable resources!

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Delicious Lemon Blueberry Muffins https://sweetcottagelife.com/delicious-lemon-blueberry-muffins/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/delicious-lemon-blueberry-muffins/#respond Thu, 26 Jun 2025 23:42:31 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=381 Craving a moist, chewy muffin with flavors of summer? Bake these today!

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Need something to bring to a friend’s house, or just a fun treat for breakfast tomorrow? I’ve got you covered with these delicious lemon blueberry muffins!

I love muffins, don’t you? They’re a quick grab and go breakfast when you’re in a hurry, a tasty snack with afternoon tea, and best of all, they make a GREAT food gift!

Using seasonal ingredients is one of my favorite ways to keep food interesting. Lemons and blueberries are always on hand during the summer, and these two flavors go together so beautifully.

I buy lemons in bulk from Sam’s Club because I use them for so many things (more on that in a later post). Blueberries are usually on sale this time of year, so I pick up a pint or two each time I go to the grocery store. The other ingredients are things most people have on hand in pantry or refrigerator.

So let’s get to it!!!

How to make Delicious Lemon Blueberry Muffins

Flour and other dry ingredients rest in a white bowl, waiting to be stirred together.

Preheat your oven to 375°.

Assemble the dry ingredients in a medium to large bowl:

  • 3 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 Tbsp baking powder
  • 1/2 tsp each baking soda and salt

Stir these together thoroughly.

In another large bowl, beat together:

  • 1 1/2 sticks butter, softened (see my chocolate chip cookie recipe for my method of softening butter)
  • 1/2 cup full-fat sour cream
  • 1 1/2 cups sugar

Now add:

  • 2 eggs, beaten
  • 1 cup milk

After this is combined, follow up with:

  • the zest and
  • juice of one lemon.

Add the dry ingredients to the bowl with the wet ingredients and combine carefully.

Finally, stir in one pint of blueberries that has been washed and (somewhat) dried.

A bunch of blueberries has been dumped into a bowl and is waiting to be stirred into the batter.

Place paper liners into muffin tins. Scoop batter into liners using a cookie or ice cream scoop, filling liners about 2/3 full.

Blueberry muffin batter in lined muffin tins awaits the oven.

Place muffin tins on center rack of preheated oven. Bake about 20-25 minutes or until done. Test for doneness with a toothpick inserted into a muffin. If the toothpick comes out clean, your muffins are done. Cool before serving.

Delicious Lemon Blueberry Muffins

Recipe by Kim Ashbaugh
0.0 from 0 votes
Course: BreakfastDifficulty: Easy
Servings

12

servings
Cooking time

20

minutes

Moist, tender, and fruity; these muffins are a crowd-pleaser!

Ingredients

  • Dry Ingredients
  • 3 cups all-purpose flour

  • 1 Tbsp baking powder

  • 1/2 tsp salt

  • 1/2 tsp baking soda

  • Wet ingredients
  • 1 1/2 sticks butter, at room temperature

  • 1/2 cup full-fat sour cream

  • 1 1/2 cups sugar

  • 2 eggs, beaten

  • 1 cup milk

  • juice and zest of one lemon

  • 1 pint of blueberries, washed and drip-dried

Directions

  • Preheat the oven to 375°.
  • In a medium to large bowl, combine flour, baking powder, salt, and baking soda. Stir thoroughly.
  • In a separate large bowl, cream butter and sugar together. Add beaten eggs and combine, then stir in milk, lemon zest, and lemon juice.
  • Gently stir the dry ingredients into the wet ingredients.
  • Mix the pint of blueberries into the batter carefully.
  • Place paper liners into muffin tins. Scoop batter into liners. Fill muffin cups about 2/3 of the way.
  • Bake 20-25 minutes until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Cool before eating.
  • Enjoy a muffin or two with a glass of cold milk or a cup of coffee!

Notes

  • Use any kind of berries in the same amount.
  • Substitute plain yogurt for the sour cream.
  • For a crispier top, sprinkle a little sugar on top of each filled muffin cup right before it goes into the oven.
  • Substitute gluten-free flour for the flour at a ration of 1:1. I prefer King Arthur or Bob’s Red Mill.
  • You can use whatever kind of milk you like. Whole milk will yield the best texture and flavor.
  • The same goes for butter. Many baking recipes call for unsalted butter. I always use salted and think it makes things taste good! I do not use less of the salt the recipe calls for.
  • Make sure you get the milk thoroughly stirred into the batter before adding the lemon zest and juice. You don’t want curdled milk muffins!
  • The blueberries need to be dry-ish, but don’t worry about it if you forgot to wash them until the last minute. Just shake them really well in a colander and they should be fine.
  • Since oven times vary, check your muffins after 15 minutes. I usually use a knife to check baked goods for doneness, but my daughter swears by the toothpick.

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Chewy Chocolate Chip Cookies https://sweetcottagelife.com/best-chocolate-chip-cookie-recipe/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/best-chocolate-chip-cookie-recipe/#comments Mon, 23 Jun 2025 18:30:52 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=195 Want a chocolate chip cookie that is sweet, delicious, and melts in your mouth? Try my mom’s chewy chocolate chip cookie recipe! One of my favorite memories of my mom is of her baking chocolate chip cookies. Everything, from the smell of the pure vanilla extract, to the sound of the chips being poured out […]

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Want a chocolate chip cookie that is sweet, delicious, and melts in your mouth? Try my mom’s chewy chocolate chip cookie recipe!

One of my favorite memories of my mom is of her baking chocolate chip cookies. Everything, from the smell of the pure vanilla extract, to the sound of the chips being poured out of their bag, to the sight of two dozen cookies cooling on the counter, brings back such wonderful memories. I bake these chewy chocolate chip cookies as often as I can. I’m not sure why they are so good, but everyone loves them! There are just a few things we do to enhance the flavor that take it up a notch and make these cookies the best chocolate chip cookies you’ve ever tasted. (You’ll agree.)

My Mom’s Chewy Chocolate Cookie Recipe

First, use quality ingredients–the best you can afford. When I am baking chocolate chip cookies, I look for my favorite brands on sale.

Second, adjust the original recipe (the one on the back of the bag). Sometimes I double the vanilla extract. I add more flour. A sprinkle of instant coffee or espresso powder. Orange peel or chopped walnuts. The possibilities are endless! You can also try any of these additions in my brownie recipe.

Third, my mom always used dark brown sugar rather than light. When I was little, I thought this was the only brown sugar there was, because that’s all she bought. The dark one has more molasses, and a much deeper, richer flavor, resulting an even tastier chocolate chip cookie.

Chocolate chip cookies sit on a white plate, ready to be eaten.

How to make chewy chocolate chip cookies

About half an hour before starting to bake, put your butter into a medium bowl and let it soften. I put mine on the back of the stove or near a sunny window to speed up the process. Softening butter this way, rather than putting it in the microwave, keeps it smooth.

Preheat the oven to 375. Line two cookie sheets with parchment paper or baking mats.

In a large bowl, measure your dry ingredients and stir them together. This would be the flour, baking soda, and salt. Sugar does not count as a dry ingredient. That has always seemed funny to me– I guess it just mixes better with the wet ingredients.

Next, add the sugars to the softened butter and mix together. You can use beaters, a stand mixer, or do it the old-fashioned way– use a wooden spoon! Just make sure the mixture is well-combined and creamy.

Double the vanilla….

Add the vanilla.. two full teaspoons, which is more than most chocolate chip cookie recipes call for.

Next, the eggs. I suggest you beat them in a separate bowl, then add them in. (Do I always do that? No.)

Now is the time for any of those additions mentioned above!

Combine the flour mixture with the butter and egg mixture.

Add your full bag of chocolate chips (I always sneak a few). There are so many different ones now! These are my favorite.

Chill the dough in the refrigerator for fifteen to twenty minutes. You want it to firm up just a little.

Remove the bowl of dough from the refrigerator and scoop out balls of dough with a cookie scoop. Roll the balls between the palms of your hands if you want more perfectly round cookies. Otherwise, just plop them onto your cookie sheet lined with parchment paper or a baking mat. The bigger the pieces you shape the dough into, the longer the cookies will take to bake. However, bigger cookies give you that bakery look. It’s completely up to you!

Balls of cookie dough sit on a parchment-lined cookie sheet, awaiting the oven.

Bake the cookies at 375 for 8-10 minutes. Always check on your cookies after 7 or 8 minutes, because oven times and temperatures vary.

It’s tempting to pull a fresh-out-of-the-oven cookie off the pan and eat it right away, but don’t do it for two reasons:

  1. You will burn your mouth, and
  2. The cookies need to set for a few minutes! Let them cool for a few minutes before eating.
Cookies cool on a cooling rack.

Enjoy a couple of cookies with a tall glass of cold milk! Take these to the next gathering you go to… you’ll be appreciated!!!

My Mom’s Best Chocolate Chip Cookie Recipe

Recipe by Kim Ashbaugh
0.0 from 0 votes
Course: CookiesDifficulty: easy
Servings

24

servings
Cooking time

8

minutes

These delicious cookies are best eaten with a glass of cold milk or a cup of coffee. Enjoy!!

Ingredients

  • 2 sticks (1 cup) softened butter

  • 3/4 cup granulated sugar

  • 3/4 cup dark brown sugar

  • 2 whole eggs

  • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract

  • 2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

  • 1 teaspoon salt

  • 1 teaspoon baking soda

  • 1 teaspoon instant espresso powder (opt.)

  • one 10-12 ounce bag chocolate chips

Directions

  • In a large bowl, cream butter, sugars, vanilla extract, and eggs together.
  • In another bowl, stir together the dry ingredients– flour, salt, baking soda, and optional espresso powder.
  • Stir dry ingredients into butter mixture. Add in optional mix-ins: zest of one orange, chopped nuts, etc.
  • Add the whole bag of chocolate chips and stir gently.
  • Refrigerate the dough for 20-30 minutes. At the end of this time, take the dough out of the refrigerator and preheat the oven to 375°.
  • Scoop up the dough into balls with a cookie scoop.
  • Place the cookie dough balls on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper or silicone baking mats.
  • Using an oven mitt for safety, put the cookie sheets into the oven and bake 8-10 minutes. (Depending on your oven, cookies may require more or less baking time.)
  • Cool cookies a few minutes on the baking sheet, then transfer to a wire rack. Enjoy a cookie or two with a tall glass of cold milk!

Notes

  • Gluten-free flour can be substituted for all-purpose flour. I love the 1 to 1 varieties, such as King Arthur.
  • You can make these into “blondies” by placing the dough in a 13 x 9 pan (grease pan with butter first) and baking at 350 for 20 minutes.
  • Chill your cookie sheets and silicone baking mats for a few minutes before putting the cookie dough on them. This will help the cookies set up better.

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How to Keep Your Preschoolers Busy While You Are Homeschooling https://sweetcottagelife.com/keeping-little-ones-busy-while-homeschooling-top-ten-tips/ https://sweetcottagelife.com/keeping-little-ones-busy-while-homeschooling-top-ten-tips/#respond Tue, 12 Nov 2024 18:21:24 +0000 https://sweetcottagelife.com/?p=121 Are you exhausted, trying to keep up with your preschoolers while homeschooling your older children? Read this for some expert tips on keeping little ones busy and happy.

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Are you the mom who is an expert at keeping your little ones busy while homeschooling? Or is this scenario more like your world: The school year has gotten off to a great start. You ordered shiny new curriculum. Pulled out all the supplies. Decorated your school room or space. Began the new semester with high hopes for a smooth, prosperous season of learning. The first few days or weeks went great. And then…

“Mo-o-mmy!” “Mo-o-o-mmy!!”

The preschooler(s) got bored.

Does this sound familiar? Frustrating? Never ending? Keeping little ones busy while homeschooling is a constant reality!

Top Ten Tips to Keep Your Little Ones Busy

Homeschooling with multiple children is always a challenge. When you also have those who are not yet school age, it can be even more so. The key is to have the solution already in place when the school day starts. All it takes is a little planning ahead.

Here are my Top 10 tips for how to keep your little ones busy while you are homeschooling:

  • Keep a set routine from day to day. Children thrive on knowing what to expect. If time schedules stress you out, just have a rhythm… do things in the same order each morning after getting up.
  • Start the school day all together, either with prayer, a read-aloud, or some memory work all together. After that, you can spend a little time with just the preschoolers while the older ones do some independent work.

Toys keep little ones busy!

  • Have toys you pull out for your preschoolers only during school time. While the older ones have time with mom, the preschoolers play with those toys. It doesn’t even have to be toys! Some of the things my little ones loved to play with were empty containers, kitchen bowls and tools, etc. (Always make sure the things you choose are safe for the age of the child. Never give a child anything, toy or otherwise, that is not appropriate for their age.)
  • Cuddle with them! I remember my little one always wanting me to hold her while I was teaching the older ones. Well, why not? It’s home school! We can do that. Letting her climb into my lap was a win/win for all.
  • Plan independent work for older children while you care for the needs of younger ones. I tried to feed and change the baby while the older ones did some writing work. This could also be a little break/recess time for the older.
  • Have the older kids help out with younger ones. Teaching small lessons to their younger siblings is a review for the older ones. And what a special bond forms between siblings from spending that time together!
  • Use preschool nap times to focus on the meatier subjects with older children.

Taking a break from busy– The importance of afternoon quiet time

  • But… keep some afternoon quiet time in place for everyone!!! This is key not only for physical rest, but mental and emotional. Quiet times help children process all they have learned that day. They also help foster creativity and the ability to be alone and entertain oneself. For you, Mom, they help you to keep your sanity and be a nicer person throughout the day. 😉
  • Learn as much as you can together. Preschoolers can sit and draw the history lesson while you’re teaching it to the older children. Their lessons can be mini-versions of the older children’s.

Relax, Mama!

  • Relax and enjoy the process! Homeschooling does not have to be stressful. You are the one in charge, not the curriculum. What a joy it is to be educating your own children. Have fun, don’t take yourself (or the schedule) too seriously, and enjoy being with your children of all ages.

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